How to Crush Your Fear and Become More Visible — Even If You’re Scared
Simple techniques to overcoming shyness immediately
Many famous actors and comedians, despite their success, confess to being shy or to having social anxiety. Surprised? So how do they overcome social anxiety, fear, and shyness?
Try some of these ideas and see how much more visible you dare to become!
Accept Your Feelings
There is no point in denying how you feel. You are uncomfortable with the social scene and being visible even though you wish you weren’t.
It’s okay to feel that way. You’ll find by accepting this honest feeling, you’ll feel better.
Take Baby Steps
Start attending small events such as a local book club. Do a Facebook live stream instead of a post. Arrange a coffee date, either in real life or on a video call with that really cool person you’ve been bonding with online.
Don’t go overboard, saying yes to everything — keep within your limits, but keep pushing your boundaries until you reach a comfortable balance.
Make Please a Priority
To feel more comfortable in your own skin, figure out what would feel really good to you before doing something scary like going on a date or holding presentations at work.
Even if you’re staying in most of the day, wear that cute dress or cool shirt that you love. Take a long soak in the bathtub with your favorite music on the speakers. Dance on the kitchen floor. Do whatever feels really good so you can elevate your mood. The pleasant feelings will help you when the nerves hit in.
Focus on Being Yourself
It’s tempting to create a fake personality if you are scared of showing up as yourself. However, you are not being honest with yourself nor others if you do so. If you don’t show others who you are, they won’t truly get to know you — and that means that they cannot see how awesome you are!
You’ll enjoy life more if you let yourself shine as you are. Besides, people are craving real and honest human connections — so let your weirdness shine!
Go Forward with Fear
Chances are you’re going to feel fear no matter what you do as you step out of your comfort zone. Those feelings you get in your guy, throat, and belly are normal.
When you feel it coming on, try to translate it into excitement instead of fear and push forward with courage.
We Are Perfectly Imperfect
One thing that often makes people fearful of being around others is thinking that they must be perfect or that they lack something in some way. First things first, nobody is perfect.
It may seem like it on the outside, but it’s guaranteed there are flaws you don’t see. Even though you are anxious about showing to others, real or not, you are still safe and supported to show up as YOU.
Flaunt Your Awesomeness
The qualities you like most about yourself are the ones you want to highlight. Those are the things that will make you stand out. Try to flip the switch on the qualities you don’t like as much: what can I learn from this that’ll bring my life in a positive direction?
True freedom can be found in our shadows and by embracing the sides of ourselves that we try to ignore.
Talk Positively to Yourself
You have to believe in yourself before others will believe in you. Before each scary thing that you’re about to do, give yourself a pep talk.
Say positive affirmations out loud that help you stick to your goals and go for your goals with less fear. To work through fear and become more outgoing you have to face that fear.
You have to push your boundaries and step out of your comfort zone. Each time you do so, you will grow.
The more you practice, the more comfortable you will become. Remember to take it slow, acknowledge how you feel, and if you need to, get help from a friend or loved one.
